Above all else, Michael says, it's important to have an open, honest and sexy conversation with your partner. Just like the first time you started having sex with one another, when you first started dating, you had to get a lot wrong before you got it right. Oral sex is like that too, and it's mostly about trial and error: does she like it when I apply pressure here but not there? Does she get turned on when I lick her faster or slower, and where exactly matters the most to her? Does she get closer when I use my fingers or when I use my fingers and my tongue?
Leder: After I read the script, I walked and talked through the technicalities of the procedures so I understood them. We had some big ones with the [botched forceps] delivery and then the trauma ones. It wasn't really important to us that the audience understood it. What was important was that the audience could feel it. Once I understood it, I could feel it, and my feelings led to knowing how to stage it. I would say that we rehearsed until we got it right. We rehearsed on film and we shot on film in those days. The first part of staging a scene on ER always was the actors understanding what they had to do technically, then staging the actors, then folding in the camera, then folding in the sound, then folding in the extras. It was all carefully woven together.